Hello! I'm Laura Goldstein, a licensed marriage and family therapist in the DC metro area!
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rockville, MD
Active listening is the first part of family therapy, that is only the beginning. We can't dig into deeper issues until everyone in the room has these listening skills to create safety. Otherwise we will just spend our time running conflict interference. Once those skills are established, we can look at patterns like triangulation, codependency, age appropriate boundaries, family roles, and more.
I am Level 1 trained in Gottman Method. We focus on first helping clients to make sure their own emotions don't in the way of interaction. Second, we teach communication skills to listen, validate, and learn whats underneath of any partner's experience. This part is so important because most problems in relationships can't be solved but can be connected around differently. Then we look at solutions where possible. The goal is for you to eventually be handle anything that comes your way!
DIALECTICAL means the ability to hold two opposites as true. In DBT we work towards finding common ground between opposing concepts. Common opposites we discuss in DBT are: Emotions vs Logic. Change Vs Acceptance. Empathy vs Accountability And BEHAVIOR means changing what we DO. Similar to CBT*, we know that emotions, thoughts, and behaviors all impact each other. But the easiest thing to change is our behavior. We work to teach new behaviors to synthesize the dialectics in our lives.
DBT is a perfect modality for someone who is 1- highly sensitive to emotion 2- highly reactive to emotions, and 3- has a slower than typical return to baseline. DBT teaches skills for both coping and changing with extreme emotions whether it be anxiety, depression, shame, guilt etc.
I work primarily with teens and young adults who struggle with mental health. All too often their home environments don't support the needs a young person has to navigate their emotions and developmental experiences effectively. Having a safe place to explore this, without shaming parents, is vital for development!
Parent coaching is a perfect way to get support and practical parenting tips so you don’t have to feel like so exhausted or frustrated with your difficult teenager or young adult. Research shows that parent coaching is just as effective, sometimes even moreso, compared to individual therapy for struggling children.