Frustrated or discouraged that your relationship is not what you want it to be? Create a thriving bond where you are deeply known and loved!
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Jose, CA
Have you ever noticed where your gaze goes when you’re thinking about something painful? Joyful? Sad? Our major memories are stored with corresponding eye positions, similar to how books are indexed and shelved in libraries. We can look for a specific book by walking down each aisle, hoping we get lucky, or we can walk directly up to the info desk, find out the book’s index number, and go straight to where it's shelved. Brainspotting is the info desk: it helps us find the book.
Feeling misunderstood by loved ones can be an incredibly painful experience. Despite best intentions, when do or say things reactively, we can often make things worse. The Enneagram can help people discover their deep needs, identify pain points/triggers, and catch their "autopilot" modes that kick in under high stress to reverse course. I want to help you align your impact with your intentions, for you to LOVE and be LOVED well and live a life of PURPOSEFULNESS, not reactivity.
You are keenly aware of your surroundings, readily overwhelmed or bothered by strong sensory input: colors/lights, sounds, texture, smells, etc. Your emotions run very deeply and are easily affected by other’ emotions, for better and for worse. Your nervous system is overloaded that you easily feel foggy or frazzled and need to withdraw to recharge. You've been called "too sensitive" or "too emotional." You often feel misunderstood but don't know how to explain yourself.
Do you filter or censor what you say for fear of making the other person upset? Do you spend a lot of energy ensuring that others think well of you? Are you afraid that, if you don't do things for others in a certain way, that they'll dislike or leave you? Your anxiety is predominantly about relationships - about how others see or feel about you, about closeness/separation in your connections, about being known or understood. Despite a deep desire for connection, you wrestle with loneliness.