Nonacceptance of the way things are turns pain into suffering. Accepting that things are the way they are is necessary in order to shift your focus to other things you can do something about. The use of metaphor is helpful in conveying truths about life. Taking a step back and looking at yourself as an outside observer helps you not get caught up in the situation or the emotion. I can help you adopt that observer perspective and find your way to live more mindfully.
The search for happiness is usually frustrating and elusive because happiness is a feeling that comes and goes. If you focus on finding meaning, you are much more likely to succeed. I work with clients to discern their own values and help them adhere to those values. Life as a human being is inherently limited, and it is hard to accept those limits; however, choosing from among the available options helps you feel more in charge of your own life.
DBT is often touted as the treatment of choice for personality disorders; however, it is tremendously helpful for many issues. I do not use full model DBT but teach many of the skills and use chaining as a tool to delve deeper into problem behaviors. It amazes me what insights and transformations come from that intervention. The DBT approach of authenticity has given me permission to challenge clients in supportive ways that lead to growth more quickly than with other modalities.
This has been the main focus of my work since I started doing private practice in 2014. I very much enjoy working with people to discern their identity or what transition steps might feel important for them. I affirm all gender identities and believe that gender is self-defined. I write referral letters for hormones and surgeries and lead a therapy group for transgender adults. I consider it a privilege to provide assistance to people seeking to express their authentic selves.
I have been for many trainings specifically about PTSD or applicable to PTSD. It can be difficult to make much progress with PTSD purely through talking about it, which is why I use a lot of behavioral interventions to calm the nervous system, to help individuals feel safe again. I believe it is very important that the decision as to whether we discuss the traumatic event(s) themselves is up to the client, as to whether it feels manageable or beneficial.