How do you learn to let go? I work to help process unhealthy attachments so teens and adults can create healthy connections.
Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA
Supervised by Lynn Fontana, LMFT, PhD
For over five years I have engaged in a daily mindfulness practice, and I see it as a point of connection in both my work in EMDR, during resourcing, and helping ground reactive couples using EFT. I have been active in recording mindfulness sessions on the InsightTimer platform, and regularly include meditation in sessions for both children and adults.
My couples work in my internship, and all subsequent family and couple work, has been using an emotion-focused lens.
I have completed my training in EMDR through EMDRIA, and currently work in two monthly EMDR consultation groups.
I trained as an LMFT, which focuses on all couples, with a particular focus on the LGBTQ+ community. My couple work involves understanding each partner's attachment wounds, developing healthy attachment, and understanding how to interact with our complex emotional selves. My work is informed by Naikan therapy, which asks us: What did this person give to me? What did I return to this person? How have I harmed this person? We need to understand how a relationship can be equitable.
For two years I worked with adolescents and their families in community mental health settings, as well as my own much longer work in parenting two teenage boys. I have also worked with teens in experiential ropes courses and as a backpacking guide. My work, informed by interpersonal neurobiology, is in understanding that behavior is a contract, and that our children's actions and speech interact with our own internal adolescents. Often, my work with adolescents requires some family therapy.
Frequently people carry one of two thoughts: "I have no right to be angry", or "I can only be angry," and sometimes both. I have years of experience working with anger in men and boys, as both a family therapist and a soccer coach. There are experiential opportunities to letting anger out in session, and helping it move through the body.