Elayne Savage


I can show you how to not take rejection and disappointment so personally–clearing hurt feelings and resentment making space for connection

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

  • Individual
  • Couples
  • Family
  • Adolescent/Teen

About My Clients

For 35 years I have worked with couples, families, workplace clients and teens wanting to explore how their early rejection and self-rejection messages are getting in the way of successful personal and workplace relationships. Many of my clients have experienced early traumas and together we discover what those messages are and the role they play in day-to-day functioning. I love working with couples and families – especially having the opportunity to offer Pre-Marital counseling.

My Background and Approach

I see mostly couples and families, including adult child–parent or sibling estrangement. My PhD is in Couples and Family Therapy. For two decades as a Child Protective Services and Long-term Placement Social Worker I gained valuable experience with abuse and neglect, early trauma, and cultural and ethnic patterns. Realizing rejection is the overlay of all abuse and neglect, this became the focus of my private practice, keynotes, workshops and books and articles. Much of my work with couples and workplace consulting is in identifying and exploring if generational/cultural influences are connected to rejecting behaviors affecting self-esteem, trust, personal safety, boundary confusion, and capacity for adult connection and intimacy. We work together on clear, direct communication, avoiding misunderstandings that lead to hurt feelings, taking things personally and resentment which leaves little space for connection and intimacy. Most clients notice improvement in 8 to 10 sessions.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

In over 50 years as a Social Worker and in private practice, I have become comfortable providing counseling to all ethnicities, genders, and political beliefs. When I need some education I turn to Monica McGoldrick's 'Ethnicity and Family Therapy' and make sure consultation is available whenever I should feel stuck. When appropriate I refer clients to colleagues who specialize in specific areas.

Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Out of Network
  • Aetna
  • Health Net
I have experience with the following
  • Agnosticism
  • Atheism
  • Buddhism
  • Christianity
  • Hinduism
  • Islam
  • Judaism
  • Wicca/Paganism

At A Glance

  • Experience: 38 years of practice
  • Rate: $175 - 200/session


510-540-6230 Email Elayne
2607 Alcatraz Avenue
Berkeley, CA 94705
1415 Queens Road
Berkeley, CA 94708

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