I can show you how to not take rejection and disappointment so personally–clearing hurt feelings and resentment making space for connection
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
Relationship and Marriage issues My PhD is in Couples and Family Therapy. Here's my take: Miscommunication can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings and resentment. Resentment takes up so much space, there is barely room for connection and intimacy. I work with the couple to get their relationship back on track, through learning communication skills, practicing compassion, clearing out resentment and making space for building respect, connection and intimacy. - Setting realistic specific goals is a large part of what we work on. Especially looking at needs, strengths and past experiences with disappointment. - Embracing style differences rather than feeling threatened by them. This is especially true with couples of different cultural and ethnic growing up experiences. - Identifying their early messages that get in the way of their relationship. My strengths are that I am warm, insightful, intuitive, accessible, collaborative, respectfully direct and wise. As a CBT therapist I
In providing workplace consultation and training businesses, I have determined a huge source of stress is when someone takes something personally and starts dwelling on what someone said or did (or neglected to say or do.) As you can imagine this can greatly affect productivity. Because rejection and taking things personally are my expertise, I can be helpful in helping clients strategize how best to navigate these hurtful situations. Another frequent workplace stressor is when someone has an expectation that they did not communicate clearly and they are passed by for a project or promotion. When I know about the client's desire, I can ask, "Have you told your manager yet what you want?" The answer is too often, "No, I'm sure they know I want that project." This is another situation of 'If you care about me, you'll read my mind.' It can only lead to hurtful and stressful disappointment. And learning how to clearly say "no" is an important skill to avoid workplace stress.
I have facilitated scores of one or two session family meetings over the last 35 years. I love working with families and I’m very comfortable including several members in the sessions. I’ve seen up to 7 or 8 family members at one time. I can help each family member identify and clearly and directly communicate what they need for meaningful and effective interactions. Family members often discover in our sessions that early abandonment fears and experiences color their relationships. These messages have been passed down to second and third generations. By recognizing the language of rejection and identifying the cultural patterns that may be connected to rejecting behaviors, we can tame the cycle of negative messages that reverberates through the generations.