I work collaboratively and relationally with clients who come to therapy to understand themselves better and break painful patterns.
Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA
Some of my clients have had events happen in their lives that leaves them looking out for possible threats and there is no sense of being able to relax. These clients are suffering expecially now, as there is so much uncertainty, grief and loss, and it may feel like there's no one in charge. For others, pervasive anxiety comes from unexpressed emotions and the prioritizing of safety in relationship over our own self-care.
I work with clients who feel broken, unlovable, and stuck. This is often the result of hurtful messages they received growing up that they continue to believe. Abuse often takes away self-confidence and leaves shame, self-doubt and self-hatred in its place. This self-loathing leads us to continue to hurt ourselves through toxic relationships, unsafe sex, drugs and alcohol, and self-sabotage. I can help you reclaim yourself and help you get in touch with your inherent worthiness.
Couples counseling can be vulnerable and challenging - and also a game changer. I love seeing couples reconnect after struggling in their relationship. I will teach you how to listen and understand one another so that you can break free from the stories that keep you stuck in anger, resentment and pain. I also want you to know that I am very comfortable talking about sex and challenges in couples sex lives.
If you struggle with self-esteem or are more focused on pleasing others than knowing what you want, I can help you develop your sense of self and find your voice. Perhaps you feel resentful of people who take advantage of you. When our survival skill has been to be more aware of others' needs so that we can feel safe, we miss the developmental step of getting to know oneself. We can get to know your desires and needs together.