I currently provide Couples & Individual Counseling using evidence-based approaches. Sessions can be online anywhere in Ohio & Kentucky.
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY
I speak about depression from a standpoint of having learned about it during grad school, as well as from many clients over the years. However, I also have had depression since childhood, meaning I can speak about depression and its treatment from a personal standpoint as well. So when we talk about your feelings of hopelessness, despair, and lack of motivation to do much of anything, I really do know how that feels, and I really know how hard it can be to drag yourself up out of that feeling.
I have received advanced formal training in EFT for Couples, and it is a topic I enjoy learning even more about.
Well-meaning friends and family will often attempt to help by saying things like, "Don't worry, be happy." This approach may work at times for people who don't have chronic anxiety. However, if you have Generalized Anxiety Disorder (meaning you worry a lot about many different things), turning off the worry part of your brain has probably seemed to be pretty much impossible. This is not your fault, and it's definitely not due to you simply "not trying hard enough."
I have received extensive formal training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples, and I continue to consult regularly with other experts in this approach. EFT helps couples go beyond simply learning new communication skills. In EFT sessions, both partners get the chance to achieve a deeper understanding of the emotions that fuel their cycles of negative interaction.
Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.