I have a deep passion for helping people come to understand, deal, learn, and heal from life's struggles, leading to meaningful changes.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
"The times they are-a-changin'" wrote Dylan. The evolving of cultural values is sometimes very jarring to our male psyche's. The information-laden world we navigate now is significantly different than it was as recently as 5 years ago. Men have had to make a lot of adjustments: In our relationships to others, to the roles in raising kids, to just about everything that men had been taught while growing up. I look to explore these changes with you, and process possible solutions.
I draw from a variety of psychodynamic schools and principles. Together, we will explore and process what is deeply affecting, undermining, or otherwise blocking you. Whether we like it or not, an understanding of our past family of origin DOES play a role in who we are. As insights are gained, you can look to consciously deal with certain destructive or dysfunctional patterns. I look to help you put new systems in place (better than goals) that will help you manage your life.
Sometimes it is hard to see "the forest but for the trees." I look to help you with power struggles, and to explore what is and isn't working in your relationship. It's very important to get past our defenses, to "see beyond the trees," and gain understanding as to the issues at hand from each partner's perspective. Once we feel heard, we can hear the other with greater clarity. i utilize many different approaches, including Imago therapy.
I would like you to think of DBT as a kind of deeper version of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy). In using DBT, there are elements of mindfulness in the mix. These include working with you as to your awareness of thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and behavioral urges.
Addiction is defined as "The state of being being given up to some habit or compulsion." Smartphones and the internet are tailored toward keeping your personal interests active. We are in "wild, wild, west" territory here, but while we are in it, we don't have to be of it. There are tools and methods to help regulate this new world. I am in it, of it, and have learned how to help others healthfully modify and recognize and take on compulsive behaviors.
Divorce is a very emotional equation, especially if kids are involved. Just ask many smiling attorneys;) But when kids are involved, it is VERY important that ex-partners try and be roughly on the same page, for the sake of their kids Within this whirlwind of emotional "triggers," the discipline of governing our own emotions is often challenged. I can provide experience tested tools, to help you soothe your pain, fill the void, and hopefully "move on" with your changing life.
I have a personal involvement with ADHD. And while ADHD may be over diagnosed, I can attest that the combination of ADHD and exposure to the internet is the equivalent of providing crack to a cocaine addict. Aside from medication, there are many other techniques which can be employed to provide better self-regulation, in you, or your child/teen.