I specialize in nonmonogamous relationships such as polyamory and swinging, alternative lifestyles like kink/BDSM, LGBT+, and alt. faiths.
Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
Do you feel like you can’t say how you really feel? Do you love your partner, and also realize no single person could, or even should be everything? Do you watch RomComs shouting “just date both of them!” You might be poly, swinging, or you might be somewhere in the middle; how you date, copulate, and relate is valid. Whether you are trying to explore who you are, come out, or do what you do better, I am here to replace the lack of Disney movies showcasing your flavor of romance.
Fun, fulfillment, and relationships come in many shades. For some, what really interests us feels shameful, sometimes it’s the shame that makes it interesting. Some counselors have trouble not seeing feeder kinks through the lens of an eating disorder, some fixate a little too heavily on the Freudian aspects of DD/lg play. Whether you are so new you don’t even know Fetlife is a thing oryou’re literally teaching classes, I offer supportive therapy with years of first hand experience.
Do you feel like you’ve lost connection with your partner(s)? Arguments stuck in a repeating loop? Are you looking to feel seen and heard? Relationships are hard, they’re like a whole extra job with people you truly care about. In my relationship therapy sessions, I help people develop the necessary skills and insights needed to maintain sustaining love and growth. Couples, throuples, triads, and more, whatever your dynamic I'm here to help you love the way you want.
I consider myself the anti-magician of therapy. Early on I will help you define goals and come back with a menu of recommended, research based treatment options. WE will collaborate on what your treatment will look like and I will let you know all the 'tricks' I use and why. Our time together will be custom fit to you, your goals, and your needs.
I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience. I also utilize attachment theory and positive psychology approaches to relationships, building and supporting each other through strengths to growth.
Using a variety of approaches including sensorimotor, internal family systems, and positive psychology we will work through the 3 phases of trauma recovery. First to establish safety for physical, mental, emotional, financial and spiritual space. Second, validate experiences from the past and see what triggers linger with us into the now. Third, retrain the mind and body to process and understand the trauma is in the past, here is ok.