Are you prone to excess worry? Do you feel like your worry is disproportionate to the issue at hand? Anxiety is incredibly common, and along with it are some other challenges you might be living with: post-traumatic stress disorder, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or phobias. First, it’s important for us not to vilify anxiety. Anxiety is a normal part of life; it gives us the energy to focus a little harder when studying for that big exam, taking care of a new baby, or in preparing more thoroughly before a high-stakes job interview. But it’s important to distinguish between those times when it gives us a much-needed boost of energy to allow us to circumvent a threat, and those times when the anxiety itself is more real than the supposed threat. In short, anxiety can take on a life of its own if not proactively managed. Where anxiety becomes a problem in your life is when it takes over the whole show, and actually leads to crippling effects rather than good performance. When it is so overwhelming that you feel paralyzed, or totally panicked. The “fight, flight, or freeze” nervous system response, aka "stress response," helps our brains and bodies prepare for some perceived danger, up ahead. The problem with anxiety disorders, is that the brain is triggered to initiate a stress response to when there is not imminent danger. Sometimes your brain triggers this response at relatively mundane challenges, like traffic, a move, or starting a new job. And at other times, your brain starts triggering your stress response when there is no clear reason. The variety and degree of symptoms are unique to each individual’s history and physiology, but some symptoms are pretty universal (e.g. muscle tension, sweating, rapid heartbeat or breathing, dread, or difficulty sleeping). HOW DOES THERAPY FOR ANXIETY WORK? At Oasis, we will teach you to tame your anxiety. If you experience panic symptoms or panic attacks, we will arm you with tools to manage these moments, and over time come to fear them less. Secondarily, we will help you work on the deeper challenges that may be contributing to your anxiety, so over time, you experience fewer panic symptoms. If you anxiety is connected to big life decisions, we will help you build resilience, and confidence in your choices. We’ll do this by shoring up your strengths and tackling the obstacles. You will learn to better assert your needs to yourself and others, and create healthy boundaries. Over time, your brain and nervous system will learn that they don’t need to create a stress response every time a new transition or big decision comes your way. We have seen this approach work time and time again to help reduce symptoms of anxiety and stress both for individuals and couples. When you feel more mental and emotional safety, you are freed up to move through life more mindfully, and less anxiously. The way we do this practically in therapy... First, we want to know all about your strengths and how we can build on them. I want to know how you’ve gotten out of tough times before. Then we want to know what’s getting in your way? Where are you getting stuck? We use a really practical approach of teaching skills and tools that you can start using right away. By lowering your day to day stress, we will free up space to work on the root issue of building confidence. Our goal is long term change, so you can tackle any challenge life throws at you.
If you are suffering after an important loss, I am here to support you. The first thing to be aware of is that grief and depression often look similar, and frequently go hand in hand. Your experience of grief may manifest as a physical, social, or emotional reaction. You might be having strong feelings of anger, guilt, anxiety, or despair. We are here to help you make sense of your feelings, and find ways to grieve your loss meaningfully and patiently, while also supporting you in getting back to your normal self, and your life. The feelings of grief and loss are not limited to the experience of death. Grief from loss can occur from a breakup, a divorce, rehoming of a pet, or of a physical or mental ability, job, or home The experience of loss often involves a lot of change, and change can be uncomfortable and scary. One of our goals is to help you adapt to these changes and redefine what your life will look like going forward. Change can prompt feelings and reactions that you didn’t know you were capable of. We will provide a safe place for you to discuss these feelings and validate that there is no “wrong way” to grieve. We will also provide you with resources and practical tools to help you cope with the overall impact of the loss in your life and the uncomfortable feelings of depression, anxiety, anger etc. The step-by-step approach we will take together: In the beginning of our work together I will be assessing your overall functioning. We will likely discuss what life was like before your loss, and identify what areas of your life have been directly and indirectly impacted as a result. The next step is to make a plan for treatment together. Grief and depression can often interfere with your ability to meet your basic needs (physiological and safety), which can have a negative ripple effect on your relationships with others, as well as on your self-confidence. We begin by creating a plan based on how severely your symptoms are impacting your daily life. We begin by addressing basic needs and building goals around meeting those needs.
Trying to conceive, being pregnant, and bringing a baby home are each unique developmental stages that often get clumped together when we think of having a baby. But in reality, each stage requires different skills and tasks from a parent, or both parents. I want to help you at every or any stage of the process of having your baby: preconception, pregnancy, breastfeeding, and getting adjusted to your new family. And especially when you bring your baby home, we want to tend to not just the baby, and not just mom, but dads and co-parents, too. Individual therapy and couples therapy options are offered for each stage, so we got you covered whether you are coming in alone or with a co-parent/partner. Online therapy is also available to make mental health treatment accessible and sustainable, especially when you have a little one at home.