Sexual Addiction

Sex is a normal part of life and does not present a problem for most people. However, it can become an issue for some. Sexual addiction, or sex addiction, is characterized as a state of compulsive participation or engagement in sexual activity, particularly sexual intercourse, despite negative consequences. Individuals with a sex addition act out sexually in ways they feel they cannot control, and which may be detrimental to their health and relationships. Sex addiction typically progresses over time, with compulsive sexual thoughts and acts becoming more extreme as it advances. A sexual addiction can manifest in a number of ways. It might be limited to compulsive masturbation or the excessive viewing of pornography, or it may include such extreme behaviors as exhibitionism or rape. If you think you might be experiencing a sexual addiction, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today.

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Sexual Addiction or Problematic Sexual Behavior arise in people who have difficulty regulating their emotional states, have difficulty with intimate relationships, and often who have histories of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. As such, it is a symptom and it harms people. Recovery requires determination, honesty, hard work, and self-compassion. Sufferers need to develop skill regulating their feelings and relating to others. And they also deserve kindness and compassion and love.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX
 

We believe that most compulsive and problematic sexual behavior is properly classified as an addiction. Bevill and Associates follow the addiction treatment model, which has been used since the late 1940s to successfully treat many types of addictions.

— Bevill and Associates LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, AL

We have helped many individuals survive the consequences of sex addiction. We know that with hard work and a commitment many find peace from the noise and pain that sex addiction creates. At Novus, our expert therapists believe everyone can overcome sex addiction. We have seen it happen. At Novus, we see sex addiction as the compulsive use of sex to deal with painful feelings and moods. The behavior leaves the person feeling guilty and shameful. It creates more problems in the person’s life. To deal with these problems and the emotional pain the person turns back to sex to find some escape. The sex addiction cycle continues. Even the loss of their marriage, relationship or job does not mean they will stop. They look to sex as the solution. Like the drug addict who knows the drug will end his pain, so does the sex addict. The problems of sex addiction are real and painful. Often, the person using compulsive sex gains little long-term satisfaction from the behavior. They feel lonely, depressed and out of control, which in turn leads them back to the addictive sex to “feel better.”

— Duane Osterlind, LMFT, CSAT, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA
 

I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and have worked in the field of sex addiction for several years. I have experience working in inpatient and outpatient settings specifically focused on sexual addiction.

— Crystal Nesfied, Counselor in Scottsdale, AZ

My mission is to provide affordable and confidential support for men and women seeking to better understand or overcome their sexual or porn addiction or unhealthy sexual behavior.

— Leilani Sinclair, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Tarzana, CA
 

I am currently working toward full certification in Sex addiction (CSAT-candidate). Any type of sexual issues can be very damaging in every aspect of a person's life- work, interpersonal relationships, intimate relationships, financial, etc. I help Clients work toward healthy sexual behaviors.

— Jennifer Jolly, Counselor in Birmingham, AL

I'm a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist helping men and women find healing and recovery for sexual compulsivity and intimate betrayal. I'm trained through IITAP and have specialized in sex and porn addiction since 2014. I'm also trained through APSATS as a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Candidate and work with partners from the Multi-dimensional Partner Trauma Model. I am sex positive and believe that sexual compulsivity hinders healthy sexual expression. My goal is to help people connect authentically with themselves and their partner(s), both sexually and non-sexually. Sex addiction is not about sex. It's a compulsive way of dealing with life, in the same way many use substances, gambling, food, etc. I help people discover healthier ways to cope. Partners of sex addicts often experience symptoms of PTSD after discovering their partner's infidelity. I help partners find safety and navigate the path to healing from betrayal, whether they stay in the relationship or not.

— Heather Seguin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Upland, CA
 

This is a tough explanation to write, because I don't offer "sex addiction" treatment proper; however, there wasn't an option that was a better match. I do have a lot of knowledge about how to work with folx who feel that their sexual behavior is out-of-control or compulsive. I favor Braun-Harvey's model of helping clients work towards their definition of sexual health, which includes sexual behavior that aligns with their values. I advocate exploring the motivations underlying the behavior.

— Alena Kearney, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist.

— Crystal Nesfied, Counselor in Scottsdale, AZ

I identify as a person in long-term recovery from sexual addiction. I have received training and certification as a Specialist in Problematic Sexual Behavior(S-PSB). I lead groups, workshops, and offer consultation on sexual addiction. I have worked with those suffering from sexual addiction for over seven years.

— D.J. Burr, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

I have worked extensively with betrayed partners after discovery of infidelity and compulsive sexual behaviors. I have completed the 4 day Multidimesonal Partner Trauma Model Training from APSATS. I have experience working individually, facilitating weekly psychotherapy groups & lecturing for intensives. More than 70% of betrayed partners experience PTSD like symptoms after discovery. Get the help you need to move beyond the trauma, learn to set boundaries, and explore relationship repair.

— Mackenzie Sodestrom, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

My mission is to provide affordable and confidential support for men and women seeking to better understand or overcome their sexual or porn addiction or unhealthy sexual behavior.

— Leilani Sinclair, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Tarzana, CA

If you don't find the sexual addiction model effective -- or have not had success with 12-step programs -- I can help you explore the feelings and core beliefs driving your out-of-control sexual behavior, and help you develop strategies to continue gaining fulfillment from your sexual behaviors (provided they are not harmful) without the compulsivity.

— Jeffrey Kishner, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY
 

One of my main "niches" as a therapist is working with men who struggle with sex and pornography addictions. It's an area of life that brings with it a lot of shame and embarrassment. It is very often one of the underlying problems that leads to infidelity and just damages relationships. It is something that can be healed and relationships repaired when people can be brutally honest with themselves. When treated with kindness and compassion, people can overcome these problems.

— Gordon Brewer, Counselor in Kingsport, TN

I help people struggling with out-of-control sexual behavior. For some, abstinence or having "bottom-line" behaviors (in line with 12 step groups) works for them. For others, the addiction model is not helpful, and I work with them to explore the feelings and core beliefs that are driving their behaviors, and to develop strategies to be able to have satisfying and non-compulsive sexual relationships with themselves and others.

— Jeffrey Kishner, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY
 

Behavioral: Excessive porn use Frequent masturbation Making explicit or obscene phone calls to others Extramarital affairs Regular use of escorts or prostitutes Frequent attendance to strip clubs Engaging in cybersex or phone sex Purchasing and hiding sexually explicit content from family and friends Displaying sexually offensive behaviors to others / engaging in sexual harassment Partaking in risky sexual behaviors Having anonymous sex with others Cognitive: Preoccupation with thoughts that are sexual in nature Obsession with sexual activity Inept decision-making Poor impulse control Euphoria when anticipating or engaging in sexual activity Psychosocial: Feelings of guilt or shame following sexual encounters Depressed mood Mood swings

— Kelifern Pomeranz, Clinical Psychologist in Menlo Park, CA
 

Supportive of those in early and sustained recovery from love, sex, & relational addictions. Strongly encourage attending SAA but not required.

— Tracy Carmody, Counselor in Baldwinsville, NY
 

I am a certified Sexual Recovery Therapist through the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy.

— Reid Wood, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lexington, SC
 

I have worked extensively with betrayed partners after discovery of infidelity and compulsive sexual behaviors. I have completed the 4 day Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model Training from APSATS. I have experience working individually, facilitating weekly psychotherapy groups & lecturing for intensives. More than 70% of betrayed partners experience PTSD like symptoms after discovery. Get the help you need to move beyond the trauma, learn to set boundaries, and explore relationship repair.

— Mackenzie Sodestrom, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

My experience tells me that clients who have a sexual addiction often feel judged, shame and guilt. I have created an environment when you can be free to talk and not feel judged for your sexual or porn addiction. I use evidence based practices to help clients understand the root of their sexual addiction and change their current sexual behavior. There is hope for recovery and a health happy sex life.

— Rebecca Walush, Counselor in Aurora, CO