Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

Meet the specialists

Affairs do not only happen in "bad" marriages. Yes, sometimes an affair is the way out of an already dead relationship, but infidelity also (often) occurs in otherwise strong, loving relationships. Whether you are in the initial discovery/crisis phase, or whether things have settled down and you wish to know more about why/how the affair happened, or whether you wish to (re-)negotiate your new relationship moving forward, I can help you sort through this complicated period.

— Rebecca Azar, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

There are many reasons why someone might stray from their intimate partner. Statics say that 30% of a couples deal with infidelity in their relationship. Affairs can occur in 'happy' relationships and in troubled relationships. Affairs can be result of personal dissatisfaction in a relationship and or dissatisfaction within your partner. I do believe that a relationship can heal from an affair and that with the right therapuetic approach a couple can be healed from an affair.

— Galina Litvin, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Ramon, CA

You just found out. You are probably asking yourself, "How could I have been so stupid?", "How can I ever forgive?", "Do I want to forgive?" Learning that our partner has been unfaithful is devastating. Your heart has been torn in two pieces and you flip flop between sadness and anger. You don't know if you can ever trust anyone again. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or decide to move on, learning to trust again is hard but with help and guidance you can recover!

— Lisa Dyck, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

We help couples to work through the stress and grief associated with infidelity and affairs.

— Paul Scuse, Marriage & Family Therapist in Markham,

Affairs does not mean its the end of the relationship. Its an opportunity to re-evaluate where life got so overwhelming that we stopped listening to each other and started looking elsewhere to get our needs met. Its an opportunity for your relationship to rise out of the ashes like a phoenix ..stronger than before!

— Della Fernandes, Counselor in Burlingame, CA

Infidelity and affairs can create major discourse in relationships and marriages and may make you feel that everything you thought you knew has been turned on its head. You may feel like there is no way to get past it and no way to trust again. I'm here to tell you that there's hope and your relationship or marriage can thrive and move past the disruption that infidelity has caused. I specialize in helping couples understand what went wrong and how to work together to make it work!

— Dominique Battle, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Winter Park, FL

Infidelity does not mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes it does for a number of reasons. Sometimes the couple come together and realize they are better together than apart. We are all unique and no one story or consequence is the same. If you are a single or married woman trying your best to cope with your partner's cheating, but feel like you're emotionally coming apart at the seams, therapy through Confidence Creator Counseling may be exactly what you need.

— Sally Raiford, MA, LMFT, CH, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tampa, FL

I have been providing couples with support and techniques to navigate the impact of infidelity or affairs on their relationship. For many years I have successfully helped clients heal and rebuild their relationship.

— Cara Allan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN

Sex therapy is used to deeply support those who are navigating the impact of extra-marital relationships. Perhaps you have recently discovered your partner’s infidelity, or are wanting to better understand your own forbidden liaison. I am comfortable and experienced exploring matters of the heart and its often seemingly oppositional needs.

— Sara Okman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Infidelity is one of the most hurtful experiences in life. However, I've also had numerous clients of mine tell me how infidelity has allowed them to understand each other more effectively and as a result, have a BETTER relationship. While it's not ideal to go through infidelity, it does not have to be the end of the relationship. Couples therapy is the most direct way to address what went wrong and what needs to be different. I'll show you concrete steps to overcome the infidelity challenges.

— KIN LEUNG, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burlingame, CA

I am a trained couple's therapist and have expertise in helping guide couple's through the overwhelming process of managing post-affair communication, decision making, boundary setting, and ideally healing. While there is no 'right way' to navigate this chapter, I have helped many couple's determine the best path for them.

— Maureen Bethea, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fairfax, VA

An affair doesn't have to mean the relationship. I can help you repair a relationship that has gone astray.

— Raffi Bilek, Counselor in Baltimore, MD

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding from the other.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN

Infidelity or affairs are sexual relationships that exceed the agreed upon boundaries of a relationship. They are symptoms of often submerged problems in the people and/or the relationship. And they do damage. Recovering trust involves courageous commitment to honesty, faithfulness, guts, and forgiveness. And healing the relationship involves identifying and addressing the issues that produced the symptom of infidelity. Recovering from infidelity is hard work, takes time, and is worth it.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX

I have worked with clients on both sides of the affair (those who have engaged/are engaging in an affair and those whose partners had/are having an affair). If you are the one who engaged in the affair (or are still engaging in the affair), you may be facing a lot of shame and judgement from society for your actions, but you won't find that with me. If your partner had the affair and you're struggling to recover from it, I want to support you in your emotional pain and deciding what to do next.

— Michelle Henderson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Lynnwood, WA

This is one of the more painful things that can be experienced in a relationship, and learning how to heal from it should not have to be done alone. I offer a neutral space for each side to explore what led to this breach, and how to recover from it--often leading to a more mutually satisfying relationship.

— Jacqueline Plante, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fullerton, CA

I can help you heal the pain, guilt, remorse, distrust and shattered rapport an affair brings to a relationship. You, individually or as a couple, and I identify the unmet needs the affair tried to provide and discover healthier ways of meeting them. Whether your partner knows you’ve cheated or you suspect is cheating, we will address ways and options for you going forward. The work of forgiveness, and letting go is powerful and can be rewarding.

— Bryan Holmes, Counselor in Nashville, TN

It feels like the end, but betrayal can be the beginning. When everything is on the table and no one is holding back, the real communication begins and so does the healing.

— Stefanie Rosen, Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

My clients describe an affair as a shockingly loud wake-up call. Although painful, they ultimately realize that it has the potential to lead to healing in their lives. My role in your recovery is to provide a safe structured process to help you move forward, rebuild trust and reinvent your relationship.

— HARRY MOTRO, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Jose, CA

The one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you. You feel betrayed and devastated and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being your life. You are in shock and you can’t sleep or eat anything. You keep thinking about your partner being intimate with that other person and you feel like you’re going crazy. How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what? Contact me today!

— Eleni Economides, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rochester, NY

Are you feeling lost, confused, not sure what your next step is? Do you want to try to work on this with your partner? Do you want help healing from the pain this is causing you? THIS IS SO HARD- BUT I’VE GOT YOU. First, I want you to know that it isn’t your fault, you didn’t cause this; this isn’t a flaw with you or your partner. There is something that caused it. We need to figure that out,address it, avoid placing blame and and shaming so we might be able to prevent it from happening again.

— Amanda Samuels, Counselor in Clayton, MO

Betrayal trauma is a difficult experience to face, whether this is from infidelity, porn use, or other sexual behaviors in spouse or partner, I can help you recover and learn to live your best life going forward! I am a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (candidate), having completed the first 2 of 4 training modules. Group and individual sessions are effective to help partners and spouses recover from the trauma of betrayal.

— Christi Copeland, Counselor in Jarrell, TX

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— Bevill and Associates LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, AL