Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

Meet the specialists

I have been providing couples with support and techniques to navigate the impact of infidelity or affairs on their relationship. For many years I have successfully helped clients heal and rebuild their relationship.

— Cara Allan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN

It feels like the end, but betrayal can be the beginning. When everything is on the table and no one is holding back, the real communication begins and so does the healing.

— Stefanie Rosen, Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

Infidelity tends to erode and sometimes destroy the very fabric relationhips are built on: trust. How does one move forward past the affair so healthy patterns and behaviors can be restablished. Learning to identify the core issues behind the affair as well as to address the trauma of the hurt is essential to the healing process.

— Anthony Gambuzza, Psychologist in Stamford, CT

Couples Therapy provides communication tools to effectively problem-solve, build trust, and develop intimacy. Whether you’re married, considering marriage, or just starting out, my Couples Therapy sessions give primary focus on the relationship issues, while building on self-improvement and self-awareness.

— Dr. Carolyn Becker, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Worth, TX

A third of divorces are being caused by online affairs. The ability to have an affair without even having to leave the comfort of your home coupled with the ability to easily locate an ex can be too tempting. Couples are not equipped with the information and tools needed to effectively communicate about the role the Internet will play in their relationship. The #InternetProofRelationship program provides guidance and support to help prevent or recover from online infidelity.

— Dr. Tenille Richardson-Quamina, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Fort Lauderdale, FL

You just found out. You are probably asking yourself, "How could I have been so stupid?", "How can I ever forgive?", "Do I want to forgive?" Learning that our partner has been unfaithful is devastating. Your heart has been torn in two pieces and you flip flop between sadness and anger. You don't know if you can ever trust anyone again. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or decide to move on, learning to trust again is hard but with help and guidance you can recover!

— Lisa Dyck, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

There are many reasons why someone might stray from their intimate partner. Statics say that 30% of a couples deal with infidelity in their relationship. Affairs can occur in 'happy' relationships and in troubled relationships. Affairs can be result of personal dissatisfaction in a relationship and or dissatisfaction within your partner. I do believe that a relationship can heal from an affair and that with the right therapuetic approach a couple can be healed from an affair.

— Galina Litvin, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Ramon, CA

Discovering that your partner has had an affair can be painful and devastating. I provide a structured treatment plan and encourage both of you to take the time needed in therapy to process intense emotions, stabilize your moods, understand and make sense of what has happened and work to restore trust and intimacy. I provide a safe place, free from judgment where you and your spouse can find the support you need to heal from the pain of infidelity.

— Lisa M. Clark, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chandler, AZ

In addition to being an Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in TX, I am also a Certified Sex Therapist through the Texas Sex Therapy Institute. I completed additional education and training in order to be competent to work with couples struggling with infidelity or affairs.

— Katherine Mitchell, Counselor in Houston, TX

Sex therapy is used to deeply support those who are navigating the impact of extra-marital relationships. Perhaps you have recently discovered your partner’s infidelity, or are wanting to better understand your own forbidden liaison. I am comfortable and experienced exploring matters of the heart and its often seemingly oppositional needs.

— Sara Okman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Are You Struggling With? Confusion about ending your relationship Being understood by your partner Insecurity because you cannot resolve the past Loneliness because you feel your relationship is unfulfilling Anxiety because your future with your partner is uncertain Our Services Help With Communicate more effectively, so you can have difficult conversations with ease Rebuild trust, so you can feel more secure and regain hope for the future Let go of the past, so you can be more present Find las

— Bevill and Associates LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, AL

Affairs and infidelity trauma are two of the most challenging issues clinicians face when working with couples. I specialize in infidelity which encompasses more than 50% of my caseload. I work with individuals and partners through ambivalence and understanding of infidelity, healing trauma and repairing trust. I completed the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship, Gottman's Trauma & Affair Recovery Program and am a Beyond Affairs Network trainer and recovery coach.

— Ciara Braun, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, MI

Infidelity and affairs can create major discourse in relationships and marriages and may make you feel that everything you thought you knew has been turned on its head. You may feel like there is no way to get past it and no way to trust again. I'm here to tell you that there's hope and your relationship or marriage can thrive and move past the disruption that infidelity has caused. I specialize in helping couples understand what went wrong and how to work together to make it work!

— Dominique Battle, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Winter Park, FL

Infidelity or affairs are sexual relationships that exceed the agreed upon boundaries of a relationship. They are symptoms of often submerged problems in the people and/or the relationship. And they do damage. Recovering trust involves courageous commitment to honesty, faithfulness, guts, and forgiveness. And healing the relationship involves identifying and addressing the issues that produced the symptom of infidelity. Recovering from infidelity is hard work, takes time, and is worth it.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX

Affairs does not mean its the end of the relationship. Its an opportunity to re-evaluate where life got so overwhelming that we stopped listening to each other and started looking elsewhere to get our needs met. Its an opportunity for your relationship to rise out of the ashes like a phoenix ..stronger than before!

— Della Fernandes, Counselor in Burlingame, CA

I have helped numerous couple's overcome infidelity within their relationships. I like to use emotion focused therapy, Gottman Method, and Relational Life Therapy, and various other forms of counseling to move the individual or couple through their stuck points, build their foundation back up, and find trust again.

— Julia Ayraud, Counselor in The Woodlands, TX

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Florence, KY