Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

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Infidelity or affairs are sexual relationships that exceed the agreed upon boundaries of a relationship. They are symptoms of often submerged problems in the people and/or the relationship. And they do damage. Recovering trust involves courageous commitment to honesty, faithfulness, guts, and forgiveness. And healing the relationship involves identifying and addressing the issues that produced the symptom of infidelity. Recovering from infidelity is hard work, takes time, and is worth it.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX
 

Infidelity does not mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes it does for a number of reasons. Sometimes the couple come together and realize they are better together than apart. We are all unique and no one story or consequence is the same. If you are a single or married woman trying your best to cope with your partner's cheating, but feel like you're emotionally coming apart at the seams, therapy through Confidence Creator Counseling may be exactly what you need.

— Sally Raiford, MA, LMFT, CH, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tampa, FL

Infidelity tends to erode and sometimes destroy the very fabric relationhips are built on: trust. How does one move forward past the affair so healthy patterns and behaviors can be restablished. Learning to identify the core issues behind the affair as well as to address the trauma of the hurt is essential to the healing process.

— Anthony Gambuzza, Psychologist in Stamford, CT
 

Affairs does not mean its the end of the relationship. Its an opportunity to re-evaluate where life got so overwhelming that we stopped listening to each other and started looking elsewhere to get our needs met. Its an opportunity for your relationship to rise out of the ashes like a phoenix ..stronger than before!

— Della Fernandes, Counselor in Burlingame, CA

I provide a clear eyed, nonjudgmental, expansive approach to infidelity, beyond the bad/good dichotomy.

— Kerry Cohen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Florence, KY
 

The one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you. You feel betrayed and devastated and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being your life. You are in shock and you can’t sleep or eat anything. You keep thinking about your partner being intimate with that other person and you feel like you’re going crazy. How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what? Contact me today!

— Eleni Economides, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rochester, NY

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN
 

The aftermath of an affair is full of feelings of mistrust, betrayal, anger, sadness, confusion, & doubt. Both parties deserve to be heard & understood not blamed & shamed. The reality is that recovering from the aftermath of an affair is not quick or easy for either party because the act of betrayal is traumatic for everyone involved. I strive to help both parties navigate this process of recovery with honesty, transparency, & gentle redirection, correction, guidance, & education.

— Monique LCSW, Clinical Social Worker in Little Rock, AR
 

You just found out. You are probably asking yourself, "How could I have been so stupid?", "How can I ever forgive?", "Do I want to forgive?" Learning that our partner has been unfaithful is devastating. Your heart has been torn in two pieces and you flip flop between sadness and anger. You don't know if you can ever trust anyone again. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or decide to move on, learning to trust again is hard but with help and guidance you can recover!

— Lisa Dyck, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

I have been providing couples with support and techniques to navigate the impact of infidelity or affairs on their relationship. For many years I have successfully helped clients heal and rebuild their relationship.

— Cara Allan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

Infidelity and affairs can create major discourse in relationships and marriages and may make you feel that everything you thought you knew has been turned on its head. You may feel like there is no way to get past it and no way to trust again. I'm here to tell you that there's hope and your relationship or marriage can thrive and move past the disruption that infidelity has caused. I specialize in helping couples understand what went wrong and how to work together to make it work!

— Dominique Battle, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Winter Park, FL
 

It feels like the end, but betrayal can be the beginning. When everything is on the table and no one is holding back, the real communication begins and so does the healing.

— Stefanie Rosen, Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding from the other.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN
 

Couples Therapy provides communication tools to effectively problem-solve, build trust, and develop intimacy. Whether you’re married, considering marriage, or just starting out, my Couples Therapy sessions give primary focus on the relationship issues, while building on self-improvement and self-awareness.

— Dr. Carolyn Becker, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Worth, TX
 

Discovering that your partner has had an affair can be painful and devastating. I provide a structured treatment plan and encourage both of you to take the time needed in therapy to process intense emotions, stabilize your moods, understand and make sense of what has happened and work to restore trust and intimacy. I provide a safe place, free from judgment where you and your spouse can find the support you need to heal from the pain of infidelity.

— Lisa M. Clark, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chandler, AZ

Infidelity is one of the most hurtful experiences in life. However, I've also had numerous clients of mine tell me how infidelity has allowed them to understand each other more effectively and as a result, have a BETTER relationship. While it's not ideal to go through infidelity, it does not have to be the end of the relationship. Couples therapy is the most direct way to address what went wrong and what needs to be different. I'll show you concrete steps to overcome the infidelity challenges.

— KIN LEUNG, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burlingame, CA
 

In addition to being an Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in TX, I am also a Certified Sex Therapist through the Texas Sex Therapy Institute. I completed additional education and training in order to be competent to work with couples struggling with infidelity or affairs.

— Katherine Mitchell, Counselor in Houston, TX