Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

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Broken trust takes effort on both parts for a couple to completely heal from an affair. As with other examples of betrayal trauma, affairs shake relationships to their core. It might feel like the affair takes up your entire life since D-Day. It does not have to! While the road ahead for couples mending their relationship in the wake of an affair is difficult, it can ultimately be the most worthwhile. Both couples must have a sincere desire to make a change in the relationship in order to heal.

— Christopher Brace, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Las Vegas, NV
 

Sex therapy is used to deeply support those who are navigating the impact of extra-marital relationships. Perhaps you have recently discovered your partner’s infidelity, or are wanting to better understand your own forbidden liaison. I am comfortable and experienced exploring matters of the heart and its often seemingly oppositional needs.

— Sara Okman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I have extensive experience working with partners who have suffered betrayal in the context of sexual addiction.

— Barbara Christian, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA
 

I work with couples to accept that arguing is inevitable but learn how to disagree fairly. I work with couples to address infidelity or emotional affairs and learn how to move forward with proven techniques that work when the persons involved are willing to be committed to the process of healing.

— Stephen Morris, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

I've helped several couples rebound from infidelity. I follow a tested framework.

— Jason Polk, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO
 

Relationships often go through challenges, inflection points, infidelity can be one of the hardest things a couple ever has to navigate. I work with couples in my practice and infidelity is an experience that can feel shattering, you don't have to navigate it alone. Affairs have the opportunity to shine the light on what wasn't working in your relationship. Although they can be incredibly painful, they also offer the opportunity to deepen in relationship. Healing is possible- I can help!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

Think you and your partner have recovered from the affair simply because neither of you is discussing it? That's a common misconception. The truth is, the broken trust and hurt feelings may be running through one or both of your minds pretty often. If you don't discuss your thoughts and feelings about this issue, it will likely never be resolved and trust won't be restored. Counseling can help by prompting you both to rebuild trust.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Burlington, KY
 

The one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you. You feel betrayed and devastated and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being your life. You are in shock and you can’t sleep or eat anything. You keep thinking about your partner being intimate with that other person and you feel like you’re going crazy. How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what? Contact me today!

— Eleni Economides, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rochester, NY
 

Infidelity or affairs are sexual relationships that exceed the agreed upon boundaries of a relationship. They are symptoms of often submerged problems in the people and/or the relationship. And they do damage. Recovering trust involves courageous commitment to honesty, faithfulness, guts, and forgiveness. And healing the relationship involves identifying and addressing the issues that produced the symptom of infidelity. Recovering from infidelity is hard work, takes time, and is worth it.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX

Hurting due to infidelity or an affair is very difficult. The loneliness, betrayal and fear that comes with this experience can be debilitating. With my expertise, I can help work through this pain and find confidence on your path to healing.

— Audrey Elbert, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Bristol, CT
 

Although the therapists at PCT are by and large hopeless romantics, we are also realists. We are under no illusions that romantic partnerships are easy, but we also know affairs happen for a multitude of reasons. Many cases of infidelity can be mended, repaired, and used as a growth opportunity for the couple. We are here to walk this excruciating journey with you- we know where the guideposts are, we know what recovery looks like.

— Philadelphia Couples Therapy, Clinical Psychologist in Philadelphia, PA

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding and a return to connection, trust and safety.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN
 

I can help you heal the pain, guilt, remorse, distrust and shattered rapport an affair brings to a relationship. You, individually or as a couple, and I identify the unmet needs the affair tried to provide and discover healthier ways of meeting them. Whether your partner knows you’ve cheated or you suspect is cheating, we will address ways and options for you going forward. The work of forgiveness, and letting go is powerful and can be rewarding.

— Bryan Holmes, Counselor in Nashville, TN

Infidelity is one of the most hurtful experiences in life. However, I've also had numerous clients of mine tell me how infidelity has allowed them to understand each other more effectively and as a result, have a BETTER relationship. While it's not ideal to go through infidelity, it does not have to be the end of the relationship. Couples therapy is the most direct way to address what went wrong and what needs to be different. I'll show you concrete steps to overcome the infidelity challenges.

— KIN LEUNG, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burlingame, CA
 

A third of divorces are being caused by online affairs. The ability to have an affair without even having to leave the comfort of your home coupled with the ability to easily locate an ex can be too tempting. Couples are not equipped with the information and tools needed to effectively communicate about the role the Internet will play in their relationship. The #InternetProofRelationship program provides guidance and support to help prevent or recover from online infidelity.

— Dr. Tenille Richardson-Quamina, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Fort Lauderdale, FL

Infidelity is one of the most hurtful experiences in life. However, I've also had numerous clients of mine tell me how infidelity has allowed them to understand each other more effectively and as a result, have a BETTER relationship. While it's not ideal to go through infidelity, it does not have to be the end of the relationship. Couples therapy is the most direct way to address what went wrong and what needs to be different. I'll show you concrete steps to overcome the infidelity challenges.

— KIN LEUNG, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burlingame, CA
 

I specialize in working with individuals and couples struggling with relational issues, such as high conflict, poor communication, infidelity, co-parenting, intimacy issues, and more. With couples, I utilize the evidence-based practice of emotional focused therapy. I also have particular experience working with trauma and grief, as well as family therapy.

— Lauren Consul, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Infidelity takes many forms, but the impact is often the same: broken trust, fear, shame, anger, and uncertainty. Both parties often become weary with the recovery process, especially when they try to do it alone. Therapy is a great resource for creating a new relationship, filled with truth and trust (because, let's be honest, you don't wanna put the old relationship back together - that's what broke in the first place).

— Heather Seguin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA