Infidelity or Affairs

Infidelity, or cheating, in a relationship or marriage can be devastating and may mark the end the relationship. However, sometimes couples (either with the help of a professional or on their own) can repair the relationship and develop an even stronger, healthier bond. Infidelity can cause a myriad of feelings in both partners, including confusion, grief, guilt, anger, and betrayal. A therapist specializing in infidelity is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively) and move past the affair. In addition to helping those who have experienced cheating in a relationship recover, counseling for infidelity can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s affairs/infidelity experts today.

Meet the specialists

Discovering that your partner has had an affair can be painful and devastating. I provide a structured treatment plan and encourage both of you to take the time needed in therapy to process intense emotions, stabilize your moods, understand and make sense of what has happened and work to restore trust and intimacy. I provide a safe place, free from judgment where you and your spouse can find the support you need to heal from the pain of infidelity.

— Lisa M. Clark, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chandler, AZ

I can help you heal the pain, guilt, remorse, distrust and shattered rapport an affair brings to a relationship. You, individually or as a couple, and I identify the unmet needs the affair tried to provide and discover healthier ways of meeting them. Whether your partner knows you’ve cheated or you suspect is cheating, we will address ways and options for you going forward. The work of forgiveness, and letting go is powerful and can be rewarding.

— Bryan Holmes, Counselor in Nashville, TN

You just found out. You are probably asking yourself, "How could I have been so stupid?", "How can I ever forgive?", "Do I want to forgive?" Learning that our partner has been unfaithful is devastating. Your heart has been torn in two pieces and you flip flop between sadness and anger. You don't know if you can ever trust anyone again. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or decide to move on, learning to trust again is hard but with help and guidance you can recover!

— Lisa Dyck, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

We use a structured and action based approach that starts to provide relief quickly. By working together we help identify what the betrayed partner needs from the betrayer. We eliminate the feeling of helplessness for the betrayer by teaching him/her what they need to repair the damage their actions caused. Over time the pain starts to go away, trust and connection is restored and the couple is able to reclaim their relationship.

— Irene Schreiner, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in downers grove, IL

Are you feeling lost, confused, not sure what your next step is? Do you want to try to work on this with your partner? Do you want help healing from the pain this is causing you? THIS IS SO HARD- BUT I’VE GOT YOU. First, I want you to know that it isn’t your fault, you didn’t cause this; this isn’t a flaw with you or your partner. There is something that caused it. We need to figure that out,address it, avoid placing blame and and shaming so we might be able to prevent it from happening again.

— Amanda Samuels, Counselor in Clayton, MO

Infidelity is one of the most hurtful experiences in life. However, I've also had numerous clients of mine tell me how infidelity has allowed them to understand each other more effectively and as a result, have a BETTER relationship. While it's not ideal to go through infidelity, it does not have to be the end of the relationship. Couples therapy is the most direct way to address what went wrong and what needs to be different. I'll show you concrete steps to overcome the infidelity challenges.

— KIN LEUNG, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burlingame, CA

I have assisted many couples move through the crisis of infidelity in a marriage, utilizing an Imago oriented approach.

— Nancy Koff, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

The aftermath of an affair is full of feelings of mistrust, betrayal, anger, sadness, confusion, & doubt. Both parties deserve to be heard & understood not blamed & shamed. The reality is that recovering from the aftermath of an affair is not quick or easy for either party because the act of betrayal is traumatic for everyone involved. I strive to help both parties navigate this process of recovery with honesty, transparency, & gentle redirection, correction, guidance, & education.

— Monique Randle, Clinical Social Worker in North Little Rock, AR

I have helped numerous couple's overcome infidelity within their relationships. I like to use emotion focused therapy, Gottman Method, and Relational Life Therapy, and various other forms of counseling to move the individual or couple through their stuck points, build their foundation back up, and find trust again.

— Julia Ayraud, Counselor in The Woodlands, TX

One of my areas of specialties is working with couples to help you repair the relationship after there has been a breach of trust. I will create a safe space where you can talk about the infidelity and process your feelings in a healthy way; I will help you develop a deeper understanding of why the infidelity occurred, will explore ways to begin to heal and rebuild the trust, and will take what we've learned to develop a more solid ground to rebuild a new & more connected relationship.

— Lauren Goldstein, Sex Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Affairs, cheating, and infidelity can have tremendous impact on a couple. I help couples reconnect and rebuild after an affair.

— Larry Baumgartner, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Trinity, FL

I am a Certified Gottman Therapist and utilize the Gottman method's Attone, Attune, Attach model to healing from infidelity. Infidelity cases comprise about 50% of my work.

— Krista Miller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX

I work with individuals and couples who have experienced infidelity. We work on healing the wounds and getting down the root cause of why the actions happened.

— Carlos Martinez, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have done extensive work with all parties involved in infidelity/affairs, including the hurt party, the offending party, and the third individual outside of the relationship/marriage. Please see description of Relationship/Marriage Issues for more information.

— Paula MacCormac, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Mountlake Terrace, WA

Affairs do not only happen in "bad" marriages. Yes, sometimes an affair is the way out of an already dead relationship, but infidelity also (often) occurs in otherwise strong, loving relationships. Whether you are in the initial discovery/crisis phase, or whether things have settled down and you wish to know more about why/how the affair happened, or whether you wish to (re-)negotiate your new relationship moving forward, I can help you sort through this complicated period.

— Rebecca Azar, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

In treatment, 25% of couples present with issues of affairs, and 30% more will disclose affairs. What happens when a relationship experiences infidelity? Betrayal, disrespect, broken trust, defensiveness...a tornado has torn up the relationship and uprooted from its ground of common shared beliefs and values. A willingness to try to repair the relationship is first. Then allowing the expression of feelings, freedom to ask questions, and most important; no further contact with the affair partner.

— Kay Hamilton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

I work with couples to accept that arguing is inevitable but learn how to disagree fairly. I work with couples to address infidelity or emotional affairs and learn how to move forward with proven techniques that work when the persons involved are willing to be committed to the process of healing.

— Stephen Morris, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

This is primarily what I see couples for and is truly what I specialize in. My Marriage and Family Therapy background makes me a specialist in this field.

— Beatrice Ballard, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX

An affair is one of the most challenging things you can encounter in a committed relationship. Hearing this news can bring up many feelings, which may seem like you are riding a roller coaster of emotions. It can be challenging to figure out how you want to move forward with your partner – one day you may want to try to make things work, while the next day you never want to see them again. Counseling can help you navigate emotions and establish healthy boundaries during the challenging time.

— Cheri Locke, Licensed Professional Counselor in Katy, TX

The one thing that you had never imagined happening to you just did. Your partner cheated on you. You feel betrayed and devastated and what you once knew as “your life” suddenly stops being your life. You are in shock and you can’t sleep or eat anything. You keep thinking about your partner being intimate with that other person and you feel like you’re going crazy. How can you even begin to think about forgiveness? And if you can’t forgive them, then what? Contact me today!

— Eleni Economides, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rochester, NY

Infidelity does not mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes it does for a number of reasons. Sometimes the couple come together and realize they are better together than apart. We are all unique and no one story or consequence is the same. If you are a single or married woman trying your best to cope with your partner's cheating, but feel like you're emotionally coming apart at the seams, therapy through Confidence Creator Counseling may be exactly what you need.

— Sally Raiford, MA, LMFT, CH, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tampa, FL

My clients describe an affair as a shockingly loud wake-up call. Although painful, they ultimately realize that it has the potential to lead to healing in their lives. My role in your recovery is to provide a safe structured process to help you move forward, rebuild trust and reinvent your relationship.

— HARRY MOTRO, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Jose, CA

Infidelity or affairs are sexual relationships that exceed the agreed upon boundaries of a relationship. They are symptoms of often submerged problems in the people and/or the relationship. And they do damage. Recovering trust involves courageous commitment to honesty, faithfulness, guts, and forgiveness. And healing the relationship involves identifying and addressing the issues that produced the symptom of infidelity. Recovering from infidelity is hard work, takes time, and is worth it.

— Michael Johnson, Psychologist in AUSTIN, TX, TX

I have worked with many couples on the brink of losing their relationships to lust. Infidelity comes in many forms and the reasons people stray are varied. I lead couples through a process that helps them learn from the affair, incorporate the new information, and negotiate a new monogamy between them. There is no right way to overcome infidelity, but there are many ways that are unhelpful and unhealthy. Recovering from an affair is possible. Don't leave your relationship susceptible.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Infidelity tends to erode and sometimes destroy the very fabric relationhips are built on: trust. How does one move forward past the affair so healthy patterns and behaviors can be restablished. Learning to identify the core issues behind the affair as well as to address the trauma of the hurt is essential to the healing process.

— Anthony Gambuzza, Psychologist in Stamford, CT

Are you reeling from the recent discovery of your partner's infidelity? Do you feel like you're losing your mind? Are you embarrassed, angry, scared, and still in love? I can help you share your truths, develop a deeper understanding of your relationship vulnerabilities and how you arrived at this place, and help you create a roadmap to a new and better relationship. There are no "bad guys," just two people in need of a deeper understanding from the other.

— Michele OMara, Counselor in Plainfield, IN