Coparenting

Raising children can be hard, even in the best of circumstances. When you are facing conflicts with other primary caregivers, the challenge is exponentially greater. Co-parenting refers to the ways that caregivers work together (regardless of if they are together or separated) in their roles as parents. Developing techniques, guidelines, and methods to raise a child is not just about the child – it can be beneficial to work with a qualified therapist to determine your unique parenting approaches, as well as how to improve communications. Successful co-parenting requires that caregivers accept that things will change, from the children's developmental issues and milestones, to careers, to the possibility of new relationships and partners. Each situation is inherently unique, and there can be many different dynamics at play (for example, step-parents will likely bring their own parenting styles). If you think you may benefit from some co-parenting support, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today.

Meet the specialists

In addition to having a blended family, I work with parents finding their way to coparent effectively after a divorce.

— Candice Lawhorn, Counselor in Pelham, AL
 

I help parents get on the same page in order to create a more consistent, supportive environment for their children. Whether parents are married, separated, or divorced I work with parents to set expectations, work through differences in a constructive way away from their children, not using children as a "go-between", and to resolve conflicts in a productive, peaceful way.

— Kaleigh Boysen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Calvary Counseling Center offers H.O.P.E. (Healthy & Objective Parenting Education), a state approved parent education class.

— Janice Chambers, Licensed Professional Counselor in Manassas, VA
 

Divorce doesn't destroy the family, but the way parents co-parent can. Learning how to co parent is vital so the children feel safe.

— Janice Shapiro, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Campbell, CA

Coparenting is a unique form of therapy that will take you past the hurt and pain of the divorce, and if the divorce was amicable CoParenting will take you to the next phase of your process. CoParenting is not about mom or dad, but about the children that you share and are responsible for. I work under the premise that “the kid(s) are my client”- I will never (likely) meet your kids but I will diligently work towards having each parent meet their needs. Together we negotiate and create CoParenting plans that include logistical issues, such as shared custody and extracurricular activities, as well as learning new skills to parent and nurture your children as a CoParent.

— Veronika Noble, Marriage & Family Therapist in Carlsbad, CA
 

I have been in a stepmom role for more than 18 years and I've learned a lot along the way. I have 3 stepkids and 2 biological children, and I understand from a very personal perspective the challenges that blended families face on a daily basis. In therapy, I use my personal experiences combined with my clinical education and expertise to help clients find understanding, empathy, and solutions that work for their families.

— Candice Smith, MA, LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Gilbert, AZ

I help couples and/or divorced parents learn to co-parent effectively and am a DCF-Approved Provider of the Family Stabilization parenting course required by the State of Florida.

— Sasha Dimitrjevitch, Licensed Professional Counselor in Miami, FL
 

Are you divorce or in a second marriage trying to co-parent together? Are you struggling with working together as a team to parent the kids? Are you grandparents raising your grandchild? Let's work on a plan and practice consistency and co-parenting effectively and positively. Tips to remember with co-parenting: It's not about you; it's messy and hard sometimes; learn new boundaries; know that the legal system doesn't help co-parent. Let's more about how to positively parent!

— Julie Johnson, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Gahanna, OH

I use Gottman inspired interventions and tools to help you build a more peaceful and cooperative coparenting relationship.

— Kelli Gordon, Psychotherapist in Seattle, WA
 

I help parents deal with their coparenting issues in regards to parent alienation, unresolved hurt/pain from past relationship, and find resolution with high conflict parents.

— Latisha Taylor Ellis, Licensed Professional Counselor in Cumming, GA

Co-parenting is hard, when one parent does not feel like they are being heard, or respected. There is one thing that both parents can both agree on, and that is the mutual love for their child. The overall goal is to create co-operation in the relationship dynamics of co-parenting.

— Kenya Pace, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Tampa, FL

I can help with some of the issues that parents face when co-parenting children after divorce or custody problems. This is a difficult time, but investing in developing a good co-parenting relationship now will have tremendous benefits later for your children. Common issues I can help with: 1) untangling your issues with your ex from your co-parenting relationship 2) improving communication 3) re-focusing priorities on the shared goal of what is best for your kids. Therapy can help even if only one co-parent wants to work in therapy on this.

— Rayna Jenks, in Portland, OR
 

Separated couples with children can develop healthy co-parenting "rules of the road" with coparenting counseling, where we seek to minimize the negative effects of separation on your child/children by improving the communication and cooperation between you and your ex. We establish goals—often your child/children's wellbeing—and work steadily toward them. We incorporate Nonviolent Communication and forgiveness and repair practices to help create a more positive and collaborative space for you and your ex.

— Julia Ward, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Whether you are married, partnered, live together, live with your children, or not, if you share a child with someone, coparenting is an issue. Those relationships can be challenging when you don't see eye-to-eye.

— Dr. Ali Dubin, Counselor in North Hollywood, CA
 

I help parents who are not romantically partnered work through differences of parenting philosophy, helping you find common ground. This work is very present-focused and pragmatic. We may look at communication patterns and assumptions each person may bring to their parenting and think about ways to work together for the common cause of child-rearing.

— Jennifer Trinkle, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

I also work with couples who are beyond the point of wanting to stay together but need help managing their coparenting relationship.

— Raffi Bilek, Counselor in Baltimore, MD
 

I work with parents together and individually on co-parenting strategies. These strategies are customized to every family as no family is the same or is experiencing this transition under the same circumstances. Regardless of the concrete co-parenting strategies discussed for your family, you can expect an emphasis on curbing reactivity from adults, and instead learn to respond or lead from a part (please see my website regarding“parts work”) that is focused on the best interest of your children

— Arielle Fettman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR

Whether you are married, partnered, live together, live with your children, or not, if you share a child with someone, coparenting is an issue. Those relationships can be challenging when you don't see eye-to-eye.

— Dr. Ali Dubin, Counselor in North Hollywood, CA
 

Are you feeling disconnected from each other now that you have children? Is all your time being spent on the kids? Do you feel like you can’t get on the same page in how you want to raise the kids? Parenting is hard work and its adds to the life you once led as a couple. These are common issues parents have whether they are living together or divorced/separated. I’d like to help you learn to manage these conflicts and difficulties, so that you can raise happier, healthier children, together.

— Amanda Samuels, Counselor in Kirkwood, MO

Co-parenting counseling allows you both an opportunity to talk about the best interests of your children in a neutral environment with my guidance. Acknowledging and exploring some of the anger or grief related to the ending of the relationship is helpful so that you both can focus more fully on parenting issues without the intrusion of “unfinished business” from the past. Accordingly, the focus in treatment is on the difficulties between both of you only as it relates to coparenting.

— Lisa M. Clark, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chandler, AZ

I specialize in working with families needing assistance through the process of creating two households and coparenting their children. Focus will be brought to the well-being of the children and how all parties can make that happen successfully. The marriage relationship may be over, but the parenting relationship continues and can be shifted to reflect the children as the priority.

— Mary Torkelson, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Austin, TX
 

Dr. Quinn specializes in coparenting and other forms of couples therapy. The relationship becomes his client and he works to heal for the good of parties involved and their children.

— Adrian Quinn, Psychologist in Wyomissing, PA

I've been teaching parent education and led groups for partnered, separating, or divorcing couples for many years. I currently teach Parent Education classes for Family Court here in Portland. Most of the parents that I teach are having to figure out a new reality of co-parenting from separate households, or possibly on their own. It is possible to parent as a "team" even if no longer coupled. It takes practice and patience, but I can show you steps to smooth out the ride.

— Richard Halpern, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

This work is particularly close to my heart. Separating your family into two homes can be a very painful process, fraught with emotional turmoil for you at the same time you are expected to be protector, guide, and confidante to your children. Navigating this path forward in ways that reassure your children that their care and progress will continue to be blessed by both of you is the best protection you can give them, and coparenting work will give you the skills and knowledge to do this well

— Cathleen Rea, Clinical Psychologist in Charlottesville, VA

Co-parenting is difficult thru separation and divorce but it is crucial that the needs of the children involved be addressed. I have found a real passion for supporting this process so that everyone have a voice that is heard.

— Rami Vissell, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Aptos, CA