Codependency

With years of clinical experience and specialized training, I possess professional expertise in effectively treating codependency as a counselor. I prioritize fostering self-awareness, boundary-setting, and healthier relationship dynamics, guiding clients towards autonomy and emotional well-being. Through empathetic listening and collaborative goal-setting, I empower individuals to break free from codependent patterns and cultivate fulfilling lives.

Jordan helps clients move from painful and draining codependence to a nourishing balance of inter- and independence. Knowledgeable in both 12-step and other recovery networks, Jordan works with her clients to find appropriate support while exploring the root cause of codependency.

YOUR FEELINGS MATTER. Your feelings point to your needs. You are not responsible for the feelings of others. Your natural care for others may be more fun when you are free from the impossible responsibility of managing their feelings. YOUR NEEDS MATTER. Let's take a fresh look at any obstacles to honoring your needs. Let's help you clarify your needs. Let's help you speak up for yourself in ways that work for you and also honor the needs of others.

The way that I engage with people around codependency, which is a confusing term, is that it leads us to want to control other people's emotions so that in turn, we feel better (i.e. I don't want him/her/them to be mad, so I won't say anything). Putting others' emotions and needs ahead of our own is something that is also sanctioned by society. Working on codependency doesn't mean that we start offending others either. It's a gentle journey into boundary setting and communication.

Boundaries are a big part of codependency and we don't really ever learn what they are or how to set and hold them. We often times will feel guilty when those around us are struggling with a difficult emotions. Saying 'yes' when you really mean 'no' is super common. Working together you will learn your own codependent patterns so you can begin to shift them and feel better about yourself with yourself and also in relationships with others.

When you give so much of yourself to others, it can feel like you lose parts of yourself in the process You might find it difficult to set boundaries or voice your true inner feelings. Together, you can learn to recognize and honor your inner voice, trust your intuition, and integrate the different parts of yourself enabling you to live life more fully and authentic to who you are.

I have worked with persons and their families suffering from addiction via individual and group work. I strongly encourage medication to help with cravings.

Codependency is not an official mental illness, but it is a term that many people identify with. I help clients based on the definition created by the author and codependency expert Pia Mellody. She defines it as having difficulty with: - experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem - setting functional boundaries - owning our own reality - acknowledging and meeting our own needs and wants and being interdependent with others - experiencing and expressing our reality moderately

Codependency most often comes from growing up in a dysfunctional environment with underlying trauma at the core. The manifested symptoms are vast and can include; the belief that you need someone or something outside of yourself to feel whole, being so absorbed by other's problems (addiction, illness, etc) that you don't take care of yourself, having the need to control people and events because you feel out of control inside or being unable to set boundaries or say no.

Codependency is when you struggle with prioritizing yourself or implementing healthy boundaries with others. You are typically more concerned with helping others feel okay about themselves and the world than you are thinking of yourself, your values, and your goals in life. If you struggle with codependency, you always feel the need to stuff your emotions so that others around you are not uncomfortable. Codependency is many other things, but you know it is too exhausting to be sustainable.

I have extensive experience treating codependency. A large amount of people find themselves struggling with feelings of responsibility for the needs, wants and feelings, of the people around them. These same people struggle with guilt when they see to their own needs, attempt to set boundaries, or try to put themselves first. I work to help a client see themselves as a priority and let go of carrying the world on their shoulders.

I have enjoyed being able to work with people on their issues of codependency towards healthy relationships. I will be an advocate for your self-discovery and independent growth, so that you can find yourself with greater insight into your patterns, rather than wait for someone else to tell you what is "wrong with you" and then "fix you." We will discuss independence of identity, worth, self-respect, and boundaries.

Having worked in the addiction field with dysfunctional family systems for the last eight years, I have developed a special interest and effectiveness in helping people with codependency concerns. The typical codependent relationship includes someone who rescues and someone who needs rescuing. I am passionate about helping people find their authentic individual identity, set healthy boundaries, become more assertive, and lead more fulfilling and happier lives.

Jordan helps clients move from painful and draining codependence to a nourishing balance of inter- and independence. Knowledgeable in both 12-step and other recovery networks, Jordan works with her clients to find appropriate support and explore the root cause of codependency.

Codependency is when you struggle with prioritizing yourself or implementing healthy boundaries with others. You are typically more concerned with helping others feel okay about themselves and the world than you are thinking of yourself, your values, and your goals in life. If you struggle with codependency, you always feel the need to stuff your emotions so that others around you are not uncomfortable. Codependency is many other things, but you know it is too exhausting to be sustainable.

Empathic survivors of abuse often struggle with codependent tendencies and poor boundaries. Empathic people will put their own needs last in order to help or caretake others. I will help you identify codependent patterns and provide you with a framework for setting healthy boundaries.

Over 10 years of experience specializing in helping those with self-love deficiency (co-dependecy) learn how to love and care for themselves and create healthy relationship with themselves and others in their lives.