Triva A. Ponder (she / her)

With my learning orientation towards life, I have personally been on a path of personal growth for several decades. There is always the next level of inner freedom to experience. I help you to identify your unique values and goals and work to help you remove your blocks to vulnerability and intimacy. Using a somatic based, straightforward process combining inner process work and communication skill practice, that takes six months on average.

We don't realize that conflict is natural. We relate to conflict like it means there is something wrong, when it really just means we each have our own unique way of perceiving life based on our unique values and needs. I help couples to stay connected when discussing triggering issues using an intimacy based, step by step process using inner process work and communication skill practice that takes an average of 6 months. Working with me you will learn how being selfish is healthy.

The stresses of life can leave our relationships neglected and filled with unnecessary conflict. Growing up, we learn to sacrifice and even lie in order to get out needs met by our caregivers. Those patterns that helped you survive are causing problems. Avoidance and manipulating now block you from experiencing intimacy. I work with couples experiencing conflict using a step by step process using inner process work and communication skills that takes about six months.

For those couples who want to make sure they are compatible enough to build a life together can benefit from premarital counseling. It's a great way to speed up the process of getting to know each other. Everyone puts their best foot forward in the first year of dating. We all want to look good. But, life is short! Who wants to spend years getting to know someone, only to get married and discover you are not really compatible because you didn't find out the things that really matter?

I work with couples experiencing conflict due to cultural differences lean how to celebrate and enjoy these differences using a unique combination of psycho education and intimacy based communication skills that takes on average 6 months. Learning how to focus on the real cause of your conflict is liberating, and is based in learning how to be selfish by paying attention to your inner cues and identifying needs. I work to help you set healthy adult boundaries that create intimacy.

Have you been disagreeing lately over stupid things that don't really matter? I work with couple facing misunderstandings and conflict to experience the love that brought you together using a unique combination of therapeutic inner work and communication skills practices that typically takes six months. Learn how being selfish is the first step to feeling connected. Remove your blocks to vulnerability and experience intimacy that makes your relationship worth having. Stop sacrificing now.

I work with couples who are arguing too much learn how to identify unmet needs and work collaboratively while taking the pain out of communication. Lean how conflict is natural and ways to build partnership that leave you feeling connected and understood.

Gottman has 40 years of long term studies with couples. Gottman wanted to know, "What's the difference between happy and unhappy couples?" And, "Are there things happy couples do or don't do that are different from unhappy couples?" We start with administering the Gottman Couples Check Up to identify the specific areas in your relationship that need to be strengthened. We practice communication skills in session.

Gestalt is the grandmother to Internal Family Systems, which I am also trained in. We all have parts that are in conflict. Like the part of you that wants to scroll social media and another part that wants to exercise. This approach uses a unique set of skills to help you identify and connect with all your parts in order to integrate and gain inner cooperation so that you can get on with the business of having a great life.